🌹 The Day I Stopped Waiting for Him to Change—And Chose Me Instead

By Martha Mok

Super Confidence Coach | Multi-Award-Winning Makeup Artist & Hairstylist
Director, YTG40+ Community

💔 You Are Not Broken. You Are Becoming.

I get it.

Walking away isn’t always as simple as “just leave.”
You’ve invested years.
You’ve seen glimpses of the good in him.
You’ve clung to hope—that love could save him.

I know, because I lived it.

🕯 For 19 Years, I Stayed

I held on to every “but” I could:

• But he had a rough childhood.
  

• But he wasn’t always like this.
  

• But I know he loves me.
  

• But maybe if I just tried harder...
  

I believed every cruel word.
I feared that no one else would ever love me.

And then one day, he looked at me and said:

“You’re not even worth a pile of dirt to me.”

That moment broke me.

But more importantly—
It became the moment I became.

“If love makes you shrink, suffer, or disappear—it’s not love. It’s fear disguised as loyalty.”

💪 Staying Broke Me. Leaving Set Me Free.

I walked away—scared and shaken.
But something deep within whispered:

“Choose you.”

And when I did,
the woman I had buried for so long began to rise.

✨ I healed.
✨ I remembered who I was.
✨ I stopped begging for love and started embodying it.

💗 And Then, Real Love Walked In

Today, I wake up next to a man who:

• Sees me
  

• Cherishes me
  

• Protects me
  

I never had to suffer to “earn” his love.

That’s the part no one tells you:

You don’t have to earn love. You don’t have to suffer first.

💭 Ask Yourself:

If you knew—with certainty—that he would never change…
Would you still stay?

If the answer is no,
then you already have your truth.

🌿 There Is Life Beyond the Pain

There is:

• Love that doesn’t hurt
  

• Joy without apology
  

• Freedom waiting for you
  

“She didn’t walk away because she stopped loving him—
She walked away because she started loving herself.”

👑 Celebrating Womanhood Means Choosing You

To celebrate womanhood is to:

✅ Reclaim your joy
✅ Protect your boundaries
✅ Honour your voice

It’s not about enduring suffering.
It’s about rising into your worth.

If you’re reading this with tears in your eyes,
know this:

💫 You are not weak for wanting more
💫 You are not selfish for choosing peace
💫 You are not alone in this

You didn’t give up.

You woke up.

To your truth.
To your worth.
To the woman you were always meant to be.

And that woman?
She’s still inside you.

She is ready.
She is worthy.
She is already enough.

💖 So if no one has told you lately…

I see you.
I believe you.
I’m walking beside you.

With love and fierce pride,
Martha x

By Martha Mok
Super Confidence Coach
Multi Award-Winning Makeup Artist and Hairstylist
YTG40+ Community Director