It’s time to stop hiding and start feeling and expressing what we truly feel.
Reclaim Your Emotional Power—Because ‘F.I.N.E.’ Isn't Enough Anymore
Awakening to our emotions is important for women over 40, especially after years of putting others first. Many of us have learned to hide our true feelings behind being 'F.I.N.E.' (Feelings Inside Not Expressed).
It’s time to stop hiding and start feeling and expressing what we truly feel.
Menopause changes how we handle emotions. Oestrogen, often called the harmony hormone, encourages us to take care of others and avoid conflict.
As oestrogen drops and testosterone rises, we may feel a new urge to speak up, set clearer boundaries, and say what we need without hesitation.
This shift can feel unsettling at first, but it also brings a newfound sense of confidence and clarity.
With this change, emotions we may have ignored or downplayed start demanding our attention. Instead of seeing them as problems, we can recognise them as guides.
Prioritising Yourself Is Not Selfish; It's Self-Awakening
Here are some common emotions to make friends with. While some may seem negative, they all serve a purpose and can help us move forward.
Fear often keeps us quiet.
We worry, 'What will happen if I speak up?' But speaking up gives us strength. It frees us and helps us feel confident.
Courage helps us accept others and ourselves as we are.
It helps us be honest about our feelings and clear about our boundaries.
Anger often arises when we have put others first without receiving care in return.
Uncovering this anger and expressing it helps us set clear boundaries so we no longer feel taken advantage of.
Guilt whispers that we should be doing more when we take time for ourselves.
Releasing guilt allows us to prioritise our own needs and helps us genuinely support others from choice rather than obligation.
Fear:I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. – Nelson Mandela
Self-Love: “Saying no can be the ultimate self-care“ – Claudia Black
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Grief isn't just about losing someone we love; it's also about letting go of parts of ourselves we have outgrown. While can be tough to let go, it makes room for new things in life.
Acceptance reminds us we can’t control other people’s feelings or actions. Awakening is about focusing on ourselves and our emotional well-being.
Love and self-love remind us how important it is to take care of ourselves. When we look after ourselves first, we can better support others—not because we have to but because we choose to.
Awakening to emotions means living life more fully, joyfully, and authentically.
Grief: “Grief doesn’t change you. It reveals you..” – John Green
Acceptance: The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain. – Dolly Parton
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I help women over 40 who are exhausted from juggling everything and putting themselves last.
Using practical tools and simple daily actions, I teach human skills like emotional awareness, boundaries, and communication so you can reclaim your time, energy, and confidence without burning bridges or burning out.
As the group’s Human Skills and Emotional Intelligence Expert, I share short challenges, free resources, and real conversations that help you shift from overwhelmed to in charge.
If you are feeling stuck, drained, or just want things to change—DM me for a free 30-minute session.
No pressure. Just clarity, calm, and the next step forward.
Email: angela@angelaheise.com
Phone: 0408 400 789
Website: https://angelaheise.com/
