🌸 Celebrating Womanhood: Coming Home to Ourselves

By Melissa Wilkes
Qualified Weight Loss & Emotional Eating Expert

💬 “Coming home to yourself isn’t a destination—it’s a daily choice to show up with softness, not shame.”

💗 Celebrate Her—Not When She’s Perfect, But Because She’s Present

Let’s talk about something we don’t do nearly enough:
Celebrating being a woman.

Not for what we’ve achieved.
Not for how much we’ve juggled.

But simply for being.

I’ll be real with you…

For a long time, I didn’t feel like womanhood was something worth celebrating.
I’d look in the mirror and pick myself apart:

• Tired eyes
  

• A soft belly
  

• Wobbly bits
  

• A woman who always felt like she was falling short
  

And because I didn’t like what I saw…
I didn’t like how I felt.

🔥 Womanhood Without Apology

Pleasure. Power. Presence.

💬 “You are not a project to fix. You are a masterpiece learning to be loved exactly as you are.”

That’s when emotional eating snuck in.
The guilt. The punishment.
The pressure to “keep it together” while trying to shrink myself smaller.

But here’s what I know now:

🧠 Our relationship with ourselves is everything.
When we stop trying to fix ourselves—and start loving who we are—everything shifts.

✨ Small but Powerful Ways to Celebrate the Woman in the Mirror

1. Honour Your Body

Your body has carried you through:

• Stress
  

• Joy
  

• Heartbreak
  

• Babies
  

• Burnout
  

It doesn’t need to be smaller or different to be worthy of love.

🍽 Nourish it with food that feels good.
💃 Move it in ways that energise you.
😴 Let it rest when it’s tired.

💬 “The woman in the mirror doesn’t need changing. She needs celebrating.”

2. Feel It All

We’ve been told our emotions are “too much.”
But your feelings are not flaws. They are messages.

When we ignore them, we often eat to cope.
I’ve done it too—chocolate at 9 PM after a long day, thinking I’d earned it.

Now, I cry when I need to.
I write it out.
I call a friend.

🧠 Feeling the emotion helps us move forward—not stay stuck.

3. Enjoy Without Apology

This was a big shift for me.
I used to sneak snacks and feel guilty for enjoying food or rest.

Now?

🍰 I eat dessert with joy.
💃 I wear the nice clothes.
🗣 I laugh too loud.
🧍‍♀️ I take up space.

💬 “You don’t need permission to enjoy your life.”

4. Find Your People

Surround yourself with women who get it.

That’s why I created the Cheer Squad—not just for coaching, but for community.
A safe space where we can be real, share both the highs and lows, and celebrate one another.

💬 “We rise by cheering each other on.”

🌷 From Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion

A Journey Back to You

Being a woman isn’t about how much we do.
It’s about how deeply we learn to be.

So celebrate your womanhood today.
Not when you’ve lost the weight.
Not when your life is “in order.”

Today. Just as you are.

Take a moment.
Look in the mirror.
Say to her:

💬 “You are amazing. You are worthy. You are already enough.”

With big love,

Melissa xx

💌 Connect With Melissa Wilkes

🎓 Certified in Integrative Nutrition, Gut Health, NLP, Hypnotherapy, Embodiment Processing, Root Cause Therapy & Trauma-Informed Coaching.
Helping women heal their relationship with food, body, and self-worth.

🌐 www.improveyourself.net.au
📧 melissa@improveyourself.net.au